Virginia Beach Friends Meeting

November Newsletter

Dear Friends:

Thank you for all who contributed.

Please respond to with ideas for future Newsletter articles and suggestions for improvements.

Thank you,
VBFM Communications Committee


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Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business

Complete Minutes from our November business meeting are posted at this link…

Recorded Minutes include:

  • The Meeting expresses deep sadness at the recent violent massacres.
  • The meeting appreciates the depth of the information of the Head of School report. Their enrollment goal of 112 for the year has been met.
  • The meeting appreciates all who supported and contributed to Bob Clapp’s memorial on 11/4/18.
  • We appreciate the participation in the recent successful Interim Body meeting hosted here.

  • The School reimbursed Meeting by paying off the entire $200,000 loan. (Finance committee)

  • Meeting approved a request for an additional $95 to support Laley Lippard’s attendance at FCNL annual meeting. (Peace and Social Justice committee).

  • Meeting approves adding $2000 as a line item to the 2019 budget for weekly child care. (Young Friends committee)
  • Meeting approves $250 for child care for the rest of this year. (Young Friends committee)
  • Meeting approves a new position entitled Child Care Coordinator, who will working closely with Young Friends committee. A position description will be provided by Linda Smith. (Young Friends committee)

Next Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business is December 9, 8:30 am in our Meetinghouse.

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Thankful Memories Of Robert Clapp

As I sit here today reflecting on the many things I have to be thankful for, I am thinking of the circle of Friends in our Meeting who have carried forward our commitments to peace and social justice. Bob Clapp's steady witness comes to mind.

When Bob left us two months ago, we lost a beloved elder who connected us to the first gatherings of our Friends Meeting more than six decades ago. We knew Bob’s quiet, steady strength and the healing to which he lent his gifted hands. We respected his personal habits of frugality and simplicity. We recognized and cherished the love and loyalty that flowed from his heart - for his daughters and grandson, for his patients, for our Friends Meeting, and for certain causes that he held dear. We loved his steady cheerfulness.

Earlier this year, while I was driving through Boston and Waltham and Cambridge MA, I called Bob up to ask about his growing up there. We talked for a while about our experiences at the School of Education up there where we had both spent some time. Bob remembered well the impulse that led him to move from Massachusetts to Virginia Beach in 1958 or 1959 to teach when many of the public schools of this area were closed in resistance to integration of the races.

This impulse to serve where he felt he was needed was indelible in Bob's character. He later played a key role in developing a community of low-income housing in Virginia Beach called Friendship Village.

Though I moved to Virginia Beach some years too late to witness Bob and Ann dancing with their group at the A.R.E., I never met a man of his age who continued to carry himself with more physical grace through his eighth decade, who raked leaves from our Meeting’s oak and magnolia trees with more measured vigor and grace.

We loved him for this grace, for his kindness, and for being our meeting's exemplar of hospitality, our conserver of coffee grounds and giver of vegetables.

He was an exemplar too of the kind of winnowing process that all of us fortunate enough to reach a certain age must eventually undertake. As time and energy decrease, which of all the causes that have stoked our passions over the years shall we settle on as our last hurrah?

We admired how Bob settled on Food for America and advocacy for Native Americans and continuing duty in our Meeting’s kitchen as his causes at the last, and we appreciated how Bob’s ever-curious mind kept us abreast of the latest inspirational Sunday morning NPR segment of Krista Tippett’s "On Being.”

Bob was a good teacher of how to do justice and love mercy and walk humbly.

And mindfully.

And gracefully.

- Tom Bertrand
November 21, 2018

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News from Friends School

This week we had the opportunity to use the Meetinghouse to continue a partnership that has been cultivated for years. It is the relationship between the local American Indians and Friends School through an organization called Spirit Rising. Friends has been doing collections for Spirit Rising, a non Profit organization for years, through the coordination of teachers like Sue Nelson. Students have gone to the Mattaponi reservation to do service work with Spirit Rising through the Coordination of Friends School counselor and Meeting Member DeeTran Talbert.

When I met with teachers this summer, they told me about their service work with Spirit Rising which was called Tribe to Tribe, a name and program started by alum Cameron Howe. The teachers asked to continue the service portion and explore ways to build the relationship further. During the summer, I met with Cameron to learn more; and heard how inspired he had been by his service work with Spirit Rising.

Our 3rd and 4th graders have been studying Virginia History and one of the students is American Indian and his grandmother Pat Glass has been very involved in coordinating this partnership. Dafna, the 3rd and 4th grade teacher invited Pat and Sharon Sun Eagle to come and share about American Indian Culture. On Friday Nov 9, they came and shared with the entire MS/US as well as the entire LS. With the Upper and Middle Schools students Sharon told the story of relations between Quakers and American Indians as she has come to know it. She shared that she herself is “living history” the granddaughter of an American Indian and a Quaker. She spoke about growing up with the belief in non-violence and of the Light of God in everyone. Sharon also shared how American Indians and Quakers supported and built relations with one another over hundreds of years. It was quite moving, and a complete surprise to me to hear of these Virginia connections that run so deep. Gives new meaning to the picture that hangs on our Meetingroom wall.

Spirit Rising supports Native people living in poverty on and off the reservation. One of the main ways they do this is by providing food, and other material and financial assistance. Virginia Beach Friends Meeting members are welcome to join us in these efforts! Friends School has an ongoing non-perishable food drop off outside the main office, please feel free to drop items off there during the day. I will try to keep the Meeting posted on upcoming donation and service opportunities.

With gratitude for relationship building,
Galen Hamann,
Assistant Head of School
Virginia Beach Friends School

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Friends Fall Festival & Foodie Fun-Run

Click on the link below to see the pictures from the Friends School Fall festival that was provided for the Newsletter by Tamra Andress, Friends School Admissions and Social Outreach Director - and famous Picture Taker!

It was a beautiful day and lots of fun was had by all.

This was a fund raising event to raise money for a state-of-the-art kitchen facility that will provide an instructional space for our youngest children and will be the heart of where Middle & Upper School will launch their micro-businesses!

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QuakerSpeak is a project of Friends Journal and is directed by Jon Watts.

Communications Committee and the VBFM Newsletter staff have decided to focus on a different QuakerSpeak video for each of our issues in 2018.


In this QuakerSpeak video, former FCNL Clerk Dorsey Green explores her experience clerking the General Committee. She explains the difference between everyone agreeing and finding the sense of the meeting.

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Brown Bag Lunch / Poor People's Campaign

On Sunday 11/18/2018 at rise of Meeting, we gathered in front of a video screen, sack lunches in hand, to hear the Reverend William Barber provide historical context for the revived Poor People’s Campaign, begun by Martin Luther King, Jr.

Reverend Barber is an extraordinary orator with a powerful, crystal-clear message.

He explains the thread running through our primary concerns (immigration, climate change, nuclear armament, mass incarceration, health care, etc.) not in terms of Red or Blue, Republican or Democrat, but rather as right or wrong.

He underscores many of our national behaviors as simple meanness toward poor people and brown people.

Please click on the links below, both Reverend Barber's address to the 2018 Address to the 2018 Freinds General Council, and the Questions and Answers following.

My introduction cannot possibly represent the power of his message.

- Mary Pelham White


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Friends Abroad Who Shine with the Light of God's Love

Quakers meet regularly in France, Spain, Luxembourg, Germany, Switzerland, Austria, United Arab Emirates and other Countries around the world. Some of these groups meet once a month, others twice a month.

There is a Friends World Committee for Consultation that keeps track of The Society of Friends in the World. Sometime, when we travel abroad we try to look up the where and when other Friends meet. (We did find a Meeting Group in Dublin once, and met with some if them).

The FWCC goal is "to help people to sustain life on earth".

Lately, as priorities keep shifting, this effort has been directed toward helping less fortunate refugee families from war ravaged nations with paperwork, clothing, lodging, food, and hope. Special attention is placed on the care of those who have entered a Country illegally and are being retained by the authorities.

The parent of FWCC is the Quaker United Nations Office, as most of you already know, located in New York, United Nations Plaza.

QUNO is our representative for World Peace and Justice. They also have an Office in Geneva, Switzerland, with the Conciliation Resource, (still non governmental organization) who holds meetings addressing our objectives in various Countries, some as far away as Somalia.

There are Meeting Groups in Geneva, Croatia, Alsace, Normandy, Cote d'Azur, La Loire, Toulouse, and La Societe' Religeouse des Amis in Paris. These Christian Groups meet in the Pyrenees in South-west Europe for Yearly Meetings.

In Austria Yearly Member Meetings take place in Vienna, in the United Kingdom the Yearly Meeting takes place in London on 117 Easton Road.

There are Meeting Groups in Budapest, Berne, Geneva, Lausanne, and Zurich.

There are Quaker Meeting Houses in Dublin, Belfast, Cork in south-west Ireland, as well as others in Greece, Slovakia, Ukraine, Egypt, and Dubai.

Friends around the world or just traveling Friends can contact FWCC in London to get dates and addresses, as we are really everywhere and easy to find.

Some of these Meeting Houses have private Quaker coeducational schools from nursery to Primary, sometime secondary offering a meaningful curriculum to good students. Most schools are small with a ratio of one teacher per eight students.

It is certainly a good feeling to know that there are other Peace Makers around the world, other Friends like us who share our vision of peace and justice, simplicity and equality. Friends shine with the Light of God's Love.

The mind of a Friend is constantly building up and giving out consciousness where the material condition feeds from. This is what happens to us. Ours is simply Faith in Action, and we are not alone in the world.

- Liana Fleming

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Campaign to Promote the Treaty on the Abolition of Nuclear Weapons

This campaign was engaged locally earlier this year and reported on in our May, June and August Newsletters.

Click here for the Wikipedia page on the Treaty on the Prohibition of Nuclear Weapons.

Below is an article from outlining what asking the US to sign the treaty first would mean...

Asking the US to sign the Nuclear Ban Treaty is not ‘unilateralism’

No one country wants to give up all their existing nuclear weapons without knowing that the others will also give up theirs. This is what has held back the process of getting rid of these weapons for the last 73 years! We have to move beyond that kind of thinking. Someone has to take the first step. Since these weapons do not protect us and can never be used without catastrophic consequences for the whole planet, there is no logical reason why the US cannot, or should not, take the lead on this.

The Treaty Compliance Campaign is calling on the United States to take that first step and sign the Treaty. However, that does not mean that we expect the US to ‘unilaterally’ eliminate its nuclear arsenal, regardless of what the other 8 nuclear weapons nations do. Instead, we are calling for the United States to go through a 3-Step Process in order to reach the point, at step 3, where it is able to ratify the Treaty, knowing that the other nuclear armed nations are going down the same path to eliminate all nuclear weapons from the face of the earth. This is not as difficult or complicated as people may think. It does not require a whole new drawn-out process to negotiate an entirely new treaty. It requires only that the US takes the lead and waits to see how Russia and the other nuclear armed nations respond.

Click here to

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Report for 2018 on Church Women United

"Blessed are those who walk in the Light of God and Touch the Lives of Others..."
(Matthew, chapter 5)

I am grateful for the privilege to serve as Committee representative of The Society of Friends at on Church Women United (CWU) meetings and events. I am humbled and inspired by the experience.

Being unable to attend all our Meetings for Business, I am briefly writing here what I have learned.

CWU, a national Christian ecumenical women’s movement, is dedicated to advocacy, to action for peace and justice for all, as well as to prayer to reach these objectives. We pray, and pray more when life seems uncertain and out if control. The prayer of intercession, the one used, is on behalf of the less fortunate.

This year's CWU Celebration Theme has been "Reaching for Wholeness".

This Christian experience has included May Friendship Day, World Community Day, and Human Rights Day. These well attended events have taken place all over USA as well as in Virginia where there are 12 CWU units. The ones closest to us in the Tidewater area are on Eastern Shore, Virginia Beach, Portsmouth, and York County.

Annually, CWU also holds an Awards Ceremony called "The Valiant Woman Recognition". The honor goes to a woman who has distinguished herself for service to CWU, her church, and her community, while leading in a quiet way through her example.

I have subscribed to the quarterly newsletter of CWU of Virginia which seems a good source of information. I will continue trying to attend some of their functions and report to Friends Meetings.

Please note that men are always welcome to participate to all announced events. Thank you.

In Service,
Liana Fleming

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Spotlight: Friends Committee on National Legislation

We have decided to use our Newsletter to give focus on the organizations that our Meeting supports.

This month we will focus on the Friends World Committee for Consultation (FCNL)

The FCNL Website is

To subscribe to the FCNL Newsletter:

The Work Of The Friends Committee on National Legislation

The Friends Committee on National Legislation lobbies Congress and the administration to advance peace, justice, opportunity, and environmental stewardship. Founded in 1943 by members of the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers), FCNL fields an expert team of lobbyists on Capitol Hill and works with a grassroots network of tens of thousands of people across the country to advance policies and priorities established by our governing General Committee. FCNL is a nonpartisan organization that seeks to live our values of integrity, simplicity, and peace as we build relationships across political divides to move policies forward.

Click here for more information on FCNL...

FCNL History

FCNL was founded by members of the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers) in 1943 in response to World War II. FCNL was a lobby from the start, working directly with policymakers to solve the big challenges that affect our world. Since then, we've advocated tirelessly for peace, justice, and sustainability — and it's paid off.

Click here for more information on FCNL History...

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Save The Dates!

Listed below are events that Virginia Beach Friends Meeting is supporting/promoting for the next three months - as recorded on our website at the time this month's Newsletter was published.

Frequently check our Virginia Beach Friends Meeting Upcoming Events webpage as event details are worked out and new events are added.

Regenerative Yoga Therapy

Dates: Thursdays
Time: 1:30-2:30 pm
Location: Meeting house
Cost: $12 per session
Contact: April Megginson,

Friends School Scholastic Book Fair

Dates: November 27 - December 6
Time: 10 am - 2 pm
Location: School Library

Friends School Basketball Kick Off - Come Catch the Waves!

Date: Friday November 30
Time: 5 pm
Location: Wilson Center

Quaker Women Christmas Gathering

Date: Tuesday December 4
Time: 5:30 pm
Location: Nancy Nixon's home
2116 Cocoa Circle in Great Neck Farms
Phone: 757-412-1297

Holiday Hypnosis Show at Friends

Date: Thursday December 20
Time: 6:30 - 8:30 pm
Location: Friends School

Friends School Holiday Concert

Date: Friday December 21
Time: 11 am - noon
Location: Wilson Center

Christmas Eve - Singing and Caroling and Open Worship

Date: Monday December 24
Time: 7pm to Midnight
Location: Meetinghouse

Creeds Hum Dinger

Date: Sunday December 30
Time: 10:30 am until...
Location: Creeds Preparative Friends Meeting
Phone: 757-721-9320
Address: 1941 Clifton Road
Virginia Beach, VA 23457

Coastal Friends Gathering

Date: Saturday January 19
Time: 11 am worship followed by potluck
Location: Home of Mary Kay Glazer and Mark Moss
1607 Rondo Dr., Greenville , NC 27858

Day for All People

Date: Tuesday January 22
Time: 8 am
Location: Richmond Virginia

Work Day at the Meetinghouse

Date: Saturday February 2
Time: 9:00 am - noon
Location: Meetinghouse

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Next Meeting for Business Query - #5 / Meeting for Business:

Do we regularly attend our meetings for business, and are they held in a spirit of love, understanding, and forbearance? Do we seek the right course of action in humble submission to the Authority of Truth and in the patient search for a sense of unity under Divine guidance?

Next Meeting for Worship with Attention to Business is December 9, 8:30 am in our Meetinghouse.

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